In today's audio postcard I talk about what I mean when I talk about bringing yourself back from burnout.
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I talk a lot about this idea of bringing yourself back from burnout. And there’s a reason that I describe it that way. So, I thought I’d take a little time today to talk to you about what that means and what it can look like.
Burnout is a very personal experience. While it has its telltale signs, it’s a bit different for everyone. And that means that recovering – or coming back from burnout – looks a little different for everyone too. But one of the main components to recovering from burnout is what I think of as bringing yourself back.
When I say “bring yourself back” I mean that in a very literal way – the process of actually bringing yourself back from being burned out and the steps you need to take in order to do that.
But I mean it in another way too. Because one of the main components of burnout is losing your connection to yourself. And an essential part of recovering from being burned out is to reestablish the connection you have to yourself – to actually bring your SELF back.
Because that connection gets lost when you’re continually stressed and overwhelmed. And as I’ve talked about before, its usually a slow and gradual process, which is what makes burnout so tricky. Because if you lost your connection to yourself instantly, you’d notice it. And you’d notice pretty quickly that something was amiss. But that’s not actually how it happens. It’s much more of a slow fade. In fact its much like that boiling frog example you may have heard.
(Full disclaimer, I’m not in any way a fan of the idea of boiling frogs!) If you throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, it’ll do everything in its little froggy power to get the heck out of that pot. But if you put a frog in a luke warm pot of water and slowly bring it to a boil, the frog won’t detect the danger and will, sadly, end up getting boiled to death.
That is very similar to how burnout works. Gradually, over time you slowly start to lose your connection to yourself. At first, maybe you skip out on a dinner you had planned with a friend because you had a crummy day at work and just didn’t have the energy to go out that night. And then eventually, you’ve all but stopped sitting down to draw each day – even though it was your absolute favorite way to unwind - because every week at work has been more draining than the next. Eventually, the highlight of your week is Friday night – YES!!! You come home from work, slip into your PJs and veg out for the rest of the night. It feels like such a sweet release after the week you’ve had.
But do you see what’s happened? You’ve gradually let go of most of the things you loved doing – the play and fun and wonder that used to be a much bigger part of your life. Somewhere along the way, you lost your SELF and burnout officially set in.
You’ve somehow managed to push aside the things that are important to you – the things that connect you to who you are, to your self – and your work has sapped all your life force energy. You’ve been replaced by a work zombie that has taken over your life.
Not a pretty picture, I know. Which is why, if you’ve found yourself in that place, its my mission to help you bring yourself back. Because I’ve been there before, myself. I lost connection with my self too. And it look me a long time to find my way back – to bring my SELF back.
That is why, as a coach, I focus on working with people who are in that very same place. I know the way back now and I can help you to skip all the twists and turns along the way. I’ve taken what I’ve learned from my own experience and from research and created a system to help you bring yourself back from burnout.
Now, I’m not going to lie, this is not a quick “3 Easy Steps to Recover from Burnout” sort of process. You have to want this change for yourself and be willing to do the work. Though I can say that it will be easier with a guide. With someone there who has a map and can give you directions, help re-orient you if you veer off course and will encourage you and cheer you on all the way to the end.
That is what this podcast is about and that is what my coaching work is about. So if you’re listening and you recognize yourself in what I talk about, I’d love to be your guide. If you’re ready to take the first step to bring yourself back from burnout, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, let me know you’re ready and I’ll take it from there.