In today's audio postcard I'm talking about how to get it all done without feeling exhausted.
Today's question: Which of the 3 tips will you try?
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Doesn’t that sound great! I mean, that’s the fantasy, right? That’s the dream that we are sold – especially that women are sold.
That somehow, by some miracle, there’s a magical way to get “it all” done without it wearing us out. What is “it all” anyway? And why do we aspire to get “it all” done anyway?
There are 2 reasons why I want to talk about this today.
Because this is a bullshit dream. It’s a lie we are sold. It’s a pile of rotten baloney!
Because it does a lot of damage. It makes you feel like you don’t have what it takes. Because you’re trying to get it all done and you’re completely exhausted. And it encourages striving in a very unhealthy way.
It makes you feel like you’re doing it all wrong. Like there’s some secret or trick that is eluding you. Like if you just tried harder, then you could work miracles and finally feel good about yourself.
So today I want to do a little reality check. And a give you few ideas for how to stop all this crazy nonsense and stop feeling guilty when you don’t manage to “get it all done”.
But the biggest secret of all is that the real way to do it is not actually a secret. And its not magic either. Because the reality is, there is no magic solution.
What I have to share with you today are 3 plain-old, obvious, boring ways to get it all done without feeling exhausted.
1. Be realistic.
You’re never going to get it all done without feeling exhausted if you have eleventy bajillion things on your list. As much as you aspire to be a superhero that can get all eleventy bajillion things done and not be completely worn out, you are a mortal. We all are.
So you need to get real about what your mortal human self can reasonably get done in a day. I want to emphasize the word reasonably because I’m betting that you’re good at overestimating what you can get done.
Shorten you list. Pear it down. Do what is absolutely essential.
2. Make time for yourself.
I feel like a broken record because I say this so much. But the reason I keep repeating it over and over is because I know you need to hear it.
You are not the Energizer Bunny. You can’t keep going and going and going without recharging. You don’t expect it of your cell phone so why in the world would you expect it of yourself?
We humans have needs. You need to rest. You need to have fun. You need to relax. You need to play. And on the most basic level you need sleep, you need to eat, and you need to move your body.
Keeping yourself in good working order is a must.
3. Don’t believe the lie.
The big fat lie that you’re doing it wrong, or missing some secret trick.
You’re not missing anything. The truth is that getting everything done day after day is hard. Especially when your list is unreasonably long and you expect way more from yourself than you would a friend or loved one.
You have a lot to do, you’re busy. The last thing you need is to be beating yourself up about why you can’t get more done.
You’re amazing! You’re doing a fantastic job! And you’re also human.
The next time you catch yourself thinking “I should be able to do all the things!” and buying into the lie.
Stop and remind yourself you are human.
Take a breath and remind yourself that its hard.
Remember that you’re doing your best.