When Work Takes Over


You know that thing that happens when you just can’t get work off your mind? It becomes all you can think about and talk about.

That's what I'm talking about in today's audio postcard. And I share the key to bringing yourself back from the work negativity vortex!

Today's question: What's one small thing you can do to reconnect with yourself?

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You know that thing that happens when you just can’t get work off your mind? You keep thinking about all the stuff that frustrates and annoys you – and stresses you out about your job. Maybe it’s a co-worker who just rubs you the wrong way. Or your manager who can’t seem to just leave you alone to do your work. Or maybe it’s something else.

But what happens is that work begins to take over the majority of your time and energy even when you aren’t at work. It becomes all you can think about and talk about. And most of the time your energy is spent on negativity and complaining about your job.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you don’t have legitimate things to complain about. But my question is – is that where you want to live all the time? Is that really how you want to spend your energy?

Because that negativity and constant rumination takes its toll over time. And what ends up happening is you spend the majority of your energy in this work negativity vortex, which leaves nothing left over for you – for the activities you enjoy and the people you love.

And slowly, over time, you let go of those things – and you end up losing your connection to yourself.

This is the place that burnout thrives!

I was out with a friend the other day and we got to chatting. The usual stuff. How’s life? How’s work going? Any fun plans this weekend? And she said something that really struck me. She said, “You know what? I don’t even remember what it is that I used to do for fun - the things I used to enjoy doing. It’s been so long.” And I instantly recognized that she was in the exact place that I’m talking to you about. She’s lost her connection with herself.

The scary thing is that it’s so easy to do. Because it happens gradually over time – and you don’t even realize it. Until you end up in the place where my friend is right now – where I’ve been before too. And it’s not a pretty place. It’s no fun to feel that way. And because your energy is so drained from that work negativity vortex I mentioned, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut.

The key to bringing yourself back is to reconnect with yourself. And depending upon how long you’ve been living this way – how deep of a rut has been carved – it can take some effort. To look back and remember who you are and what you need and love in your life.

And I’m guessing you feel like you don’t have the energy. Or maybe you don’t even know where to start. My advice to my friend – and my advice to you - is to start small and build from there. To do what you need to do to remember the things that you enjoy, that energize and excite you. And then make some time – even if it’s just a few minutes a day – to reconnect with yourself and those things. The hardest part is getting started. But I’m here to tell you that it is so worth the effort!

Reconnecting with yourself is the key to stopping work from taking over. And that is a huge step toward bringing yourself back from burnout.